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How Did I Get To This Place in My Life?
My personality lends itself to enjoying being with people! I especially love time with my husband, my adult children and their families, as well as my friends and church family! But who I am today in relationships with others has exponentially improved and grown over the years as I have had to come to terms with my tendency for people-pleasing. For many years I tried to be a "good girl": during my early childhood it was to behave for parents and other adults, get perfect grades, don't be a disappointment; the teen years and early adult years saw me being whoever and whatever I thought would make the people in my life happy with me or at least not annoyed with me. Even when I gave my life to Christ at age 15, I erroneously thought I had to be perfect in order for God to keep loving and accepting me. It was truly exhausting juggling all these different Kathys and it all led me to be anxious, depressed and not at all sure who I really was.
A number of years ago I began a journey to truly discover who God says that I am and part of that was getting a lay counseling certification, which eventually led to pursuing a Psychology: Christian Counseling B.S. degree and now I have completed certifications to be a Christian Life Coach with specializations in Mental Health Coaching and Crisis and Trauma Care. I'm choosing to be obedient to God nudging me (not so gently!) to make this into a real business. This is a growing and challenging adventure for me as I have to once again look at what I know and believe to be true about God and what I know and believe to be true about who I am in Christ. The old voices in my head telling me that I'm fooling myself to expect someone to sign up to actually pay me for my help, that I'm an impostor, that I'm wasting our money, etc., etc. keep making appearances in my thoughts and emotions. So, I ask myself...”what WOULD you tell a client coming to you with these thoughts and emotions”? The answer: I'd probably say: Identify your false beliefs and embrace the truth.
My false beliefs suggested that I'm unworthy, not equipped, too disorganized, not worth being paid. That I've quit so many other endeavors over the years and what if I don't follow through with this, my husband shouldn't have to worry if the money I'm spending to start up a business will ever pay off, God has so many others He can and is already using to help people so why me?.
False beliefs suggested that I was unworthy, inadequately prepared, or not deserving of a fair payment. But the truth? The truth is the culmination of hard work, continuous learning, and an innate passion for helping others. It's the love and support from family and friends. It's the unwavering faith in God's plans for me.
God has made me uniquely gifted for this area of care work; so many in my life have been enthusiastically encouraging me as I pursue my business; I can and will follow through, as I have with many things over the years; my husband is excited for me and has never even mentioned money during this start up time; and, God is love and He calls us to love others, and because of His great love for me He desires to fill me and equip me by the power of His Holy Spirit to do through me what I couldn't do without Him!!
It's not about who others say we are, but about who God declares that we are as believers in the priceless gift of His Son, being willing to shed His blood for me and for you. I encourage you to read Acts 5:29-32 and Ephesians 2:10.
Contact me if any of this resonates with you and I'd love to talk! Actually, I'd really love to LISTEN!
Kathy Lamb.
CHANGE YOUR LIFE Christian Life Coaching
changeyourlifewithkathy.life [email protected]
My personality lends itself to enjoying being with people! I especially love time with my husband, my adult children and their families, as well as my friends and church family! But who I am today in relationships with others has exponentially improved and grown over the years as I have had to come to terms with my tendency for people-pleasing. For many years I tried to be a "good girl": during my early childhood it was to behave for parents and other adults, get perfect grades, don't be a disappointment; the teen years and early adult years saw me being whoever and whatever I thought would make the people in my life happy with me or at least not annoyed with me. Even when I gave my life to Christ at age 15, I erroneously thought I had to be perfect in order for God to keep loving and accepting me. It was truly exhausting juggling all these different Kathys and it all led me to be anxious, depressed and not at all sure who I really was.
A number of years ago I began a journey to truly discover who God says that I am and part of that was getting a lay counseling certification, which eventually led to pursuing a Psychology: Christian Counseling B.S. degree and now I have completed certifications to be a Christian Life Coach with specializations in Mental Health Coaching and Crisis and Trauma Care. I'm choosing to be obedient to God nudging me (not so gently!) to make this into a real business. This is a growing and challenging adventure for me as I have to once again look at what I know and believe to be true about God and what I know and believe to be true about who I am in Christ. The old voices in my head telling me that I'm fooling myself to expect someone to sign up to actually pay me for my help, that I'm an impostor, that I'm wasting our money, etc., etc. keep making appearances in my thoughts and emotions. So, I ask myself...”what WOULD you tell a client coming to you with these thoughts and emotions”? The answer: I'd probably say: Identify your false beliefs and embrace the truth.
My false beliefs suggested that I'm unworthy, not equipped, too disorganized, not worth being paid. That I've quit so many other endeavors over the years and what if I don't follow through with this, my husband shouldn't have to worry if the money I'm spending to start up a business will ever pay off, God has so many others He can and is already using to help people so why me?.
False beliefs suggested that I was unworthy, inadequately prepared, or not deserving of a fair payment. But the truth? The truth is the culmination of hard work, continuous learning, and an innate passion for helping others. It's the love and support from family and friends. It's the unwavering faith in God's plans for me.
God has made me uniquely gifted for this area of care work; so many in my life have been enthusiastically encouraging me as I pursue my business; I can and will follow through, as I have with many things over the years; my husband is excited for me and has never even mentioned money during this start up time; and, God is love and He calls us to love others, and because of His great love for me He desires to fill me and equip me by the power of His Holy Spirit to do through me what I couldn't do without Him!!
It's not about who others say we are, but about who God declares that we are as believers in the priceless gift of His Son, being willing to shed His blood for me and for you. I encourage you to read Acts 5:29-32 and Ephesians 2:10.
Contact me if any of this resonates with you and I'd love to talk! Actually, I'd really love to LISTEN!
Kathy Lamb.
CHANGE YOUR LIFE Christian Life Coaching
changeyourlifewithkathy.life [email protected]
